Life is full of moments that pass and you have no clue at the time that it will be a defining one. I was at a launch party for a new business about 4 years ago and I met this amazing women, Ramsey Tobey. When I first met Ramsey we were both babe free and fully focused on the next dream we were going to accomplish. Today Ramsey is the Mama to the sweetest little 3 year old girl Noa, with another bundle on the way in November.
Professionally Ramsey has been building her bomb hair career locally at Beauty Bar Boutique. Nationally this Mama has trained in both New York City and Miami with Oribe. Not to mention she has worked three different New York Fashion Week circuits with designers such as; Proenza Schouler, Brandon Maxwell, Brock Collection and Gabriella Hearst, to name a few. She even showed me how to do this amazing hair style from the most recent Brock Collection show, Vogue wrote an article about the hair style, that you can read here. If you want to know how to do this gorgeous and quick hairstyle, you can go here to read all about it and 4 more fun options!
I got to sit down with Ramsey and find out much more about her career, family and the next big thing.
ADG: What is your professional career title?
RT: Hair Stylist at Beauty Bar Boutique in Wilmington, NC.
ADG: Tell me about you feel you are as a creative woman in your field?
RT: I have a bit of a unique story, I actually used to be a chemist. Like,
lab coats, goggles, pipettes, etc. So I have a very strong scientific and
analytical background, but I have always had this creative side that was
bursting to come out. This is why I decided to change careers and go to
Cosmetology school in my mid- twenties. I like to say that I am an artist,
But also a scientist, because hair dressing encompasses both of my personalities.
ADG: Which tools do you find indispensable in your career?
RT: As far as actual tools, I don't know what I would do without my Mason
Pearson Boar bristle and Nylon brush. It is an investment, but I take it everywhere
with me, on set, backstage and behind the chair. And my GHD Flat Iron. I can do
anything with that flat iron and it heats up in 45 seconds. One more "tool" I carry
with me is the ability to manage under stress. Sometimes things don't go as planned,
it happens. But there is always that moment when you have to pause, take a deep breath,
and decide to handle the situation in front of you as best you can.
ADG: What would you do differently in life, career, mamahood, if you knew then what
you know now?
RT: As a mom, knowing what I know now, I would keep my big mouth shut! I have eaten my
words in so many ways. Motherhood has been a big piece of humble pie for me, but I needed it.
Even from little things, like, I said I would never get a baby swing because they are tacky. Ha!
My sweet daughter slept in a baby swing for almost 6 months! I also said I wouldn't breastfeed
past a year, and I did, and I am so glad that I did because it is such a fleeting time in your
relationship with your baby (if you are so inclined) and it was so special for me. It also connected
me with so many amazing mothers and I have learned that it truly does take a village to raise a
ADG: What is the best advice you have ever received and from whom?
RT: I was having a really rough senior year of college and my dad wrote
me a letter by hand and in it he said “I believe in Ramsey, but Ramsey has
to believe in Ramsey.” I still have it 10 years later and it still means so much
ADG: Who are your biggest influences? Who do you admire most? Who or
what inspired you to do what you are doing now?
RT: I actually got to meet and work beside one of my biggest influences recently
at NYFW working with team Oribe, Kien Hoang. He is the Director of Content for
Oribe and I absolutely love his work. He is so talented and has an inspiring story.
He was told he could never be a hair dresser, and it drove him to become one.
I was also told not to become a hair dresser because my “brain was too big” and I
would be wasting my degree and I’m so glad I didn’t listen. I have worked with some
of the most intelligent people I have ever met in this field and it has been an honor
to work beside so many brilliant minds.
Make sure you check out Part II of my interview with Ramsey here, to find out her “essentials”, whats next and her biggest support system.